Did you know that at least ninety percent of the women from the former Soviet Union, countries such as Belarus, Ukraine and Russia haven’t the foggiest notion what the meaning of “mail order bride” is? They have no comprehension of the term “mail order bride” because it was never a part of their culture or history.
Mail Order Wife
A “mail order bride is more of a recent phenomena, starting in the mid 1800′s, steeped more in the cultures of North America rather than in Russia. In this article I will discuss how this notion of “mail order brides” could reflect on your Russian wife.
With the advent of the Internet, the world began to open up to all peoples with many dating and singles web-sites spring up all over the net..
Because there is a shortage of men in Russia, Russian women have turned to finding love and happiness with men of other countries , for them Internet dating looked like an exciting way to find love and happiness.
Unfortunately for most of these women, they learn the stigma of the term “ Mail Order Bride” after finally arriving in the Western world. Most likely the biggest shock your Russian wife is going to get is the negative connotation “Mail Order Bride” has, and how this relates to her, personally.
I know many Russian-western couples and each react differently to the “mail order bride” labeling. There are those lucky couples who have very supportive friends and relatives where the “mail order bride” question has never arisen. Yet there are many couples who live with the “mail order bride” label as a stigma.
As a matter of fact, I personally know a couple, where the husband is running a very successful business and absolutely forbids his Russian wife from EVER telling anyone about the way they met ( Russian marriage agency). He taught her to answer that they met by accident while they both were on vacation in Europe.
Why?
Because he believes that his business partners and his relatives will not accept the fact that he met his wife though a “mail order bride” situation and the embarrassment would devastate him.
If so exposed, by trying to “save face”, he would deeply hurt his wife, as she realizes that the method of their meeting could be construed as shameful. As you might understand, this type of situation would be very depressing and demoralizing for her.
If you are interested in a Russian women, you need to think how she is going to handle the situation when she discovers that the name “mail order bride”, was not only a part of early American history but that ridiculous and insulting term is part of the 21 century and most shockingly, part of HER OWN life!
PS: During Halloween, in Seattle, Washington, A Wal-Mart’s stocked a new type of costume”the mail-order bride” wedding dress, replete with postage stamps and postmarks. “RETURN TO SENDER” written towards top. Funny… Funny?
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what are some of the most reputable foreign matchmaking services?
How can you tell if it’s true
Let me tell you about my situation I was contacted a couple of months via internet site from this russian woman, we have sent e-mails every day since the first contact. She wants to come here and marry me. she is very beautiful and I would not hesitate to marry her and bring her to canada. I know there is a cost and have no problem finding the funds to accomplish this. My question is how do you know its not a scam just to have you send money. I don’t think it is and I don’t think it would bother me if it were a scam but how do you find out without sending the cash Thanks Rick
Go to her country and meet her before you send her any money. The trip is not very expensive and that way you will know for sure.
Get contacts her address. Then mail flowers to her with video. Just make sure you tell her u want to see how nice she looks and happy she can be near her home town . That materialistics are not so important as love is. Of course if you dont mean that then dont even speak to her anymore .. I think u knew that last part of course.
The video proofs that she is who she says she is and shes at least 80% honest. No one is perfect. Its worth meeting her and learning more about her. be honest about your financial situations without being sound like unprotective to her. IF u need time to save to go then tell her. better to be excepted right away for who you are and know it , then to play games in russia,ukraine or europe.. etc.
I have lived in south russia . Women in there are same as here. Much variety and problems variety. U can find more home focused women , but u must look smaller towns, or home and buisness with good intentions,, in biggest city..
Yet u can find great women anywhere by meeting. And dont jump into bed with them just get close and public and wait. Thew girls like usa girls, want a good man, but some can mistaken keeping one, for fantasy idea of marriage through misleading things like sex before commitment of marriage.
And life time freind. make sure u click before u kiss etc..
I find myself more attracted to ukriane,russian,and women over the sea. alaways have. i really think its because of the character , and inner heart, reflection on outside appearance and a big part…. of bloodline.. I believe many usa men have 200 yrs ago roots to this areas.. this is why.
Im oldest of swedish,german,italilan areas of bloodline.. Its a guess. but for me, being captivated by them allot , in both looks and communication and lifestye is why.
JEff p.s. usa women are out there who have same. most married 2 tiems or more, and some just plan not plan to marry. and ohter , just not active enough to keep up with my fast pace, tempo
I NEED THE SAME AS RICK!! HOW DO WE KNOW IF ITS A SCAM!!
I was contacted by a woman who wrote me beautiful letters and almost got me. My son Googled some of the phrases and included Russian dating scam with the phrases. Sure enough, there was “her ” Letters word for word with another woman’s name addressed to another man. If you reply at all, they do not read the email. they just see that you bit and replied and send you the next letter. Do not reply to the next 2 or 3 letters and they will stop. they always include pictures of young beautiful women. It is a masterpiece of psychological writing almost guaranteed to tough your heart. Watch out if they contact you out of the blue, unsolicited.